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INTRODUCTION
What is there
that a woman may not do? She
can do everything except
what Allah has forbidden.
The teachings of Islam tell
us what the limits of
behavior are. Anyone who
goes beyond these limits is
likely to meet trouble, both
in this world and in the
next world. The best of
women have lived their lives
within the limits of Allah
and have achieved greatness,
often through actions, which
even the best of men could
not have equaled. They have
gained the love and respect
not only of those who knew
them, but also of those who
came to hear about them long
after they have died. Among
the best of women were the
wives of the Prophet
Muhammad, (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) for he was the best of
creation, Al Quthum, the one
who has all good virtues and
characteristics gathered
together in him, and
accordingly Allah granted
him the best of women in
marriage. Today, even
hundreds of years later,
young girls still learn a
little about them and then,
as they grow up and become
women, they follow their
example, seeking the
pleasure of Allah. It has
been related by Anas that
the Prophet Muhammad (peace
and blessings of Allah be
upon him) said, " Of all the
women in all the worlds,
these are enough for you
(meaning that they were the
best of women): Maryam, the
daughter of Imran, (and the
mother of Jesus, peace be
upon them); and Khadijah,
the daughter of Khuwaylid
(the first wife of Muhammad,
peace and blessings of Allah
be upon them); Fatima, the
daughter of Muhammad (and of
Khadijah, may Allah be
pleased with them); and
Asiyya, the wife of Pharaoh
(who rescued Moses from the
river Nile when he was a
baby and brought him up as
her son, peace be on them)."
Anas also related that the
Messenger of Allah (peace
and blessings of Allah be
upon him) said, "Love Allah
for the gifts that He gives
you; love me for the sake of
Allah; and love the People
of my House for I love
them."
1-KHADIJA
bint Khuwaylid
Abdullah
ibn Jafar reported that he
heard Sayyiduna Ali say in
Kufa that Allah's Messenger,
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) said,
"The best of the women of
her time was Maryam,
daughter of Imran, and the
bet of the women of her time
was Khadijah, daughter of
Khuwaylid."
Is it not
a great honor that the first
person to embrace Islam was
a woman? She was the first
to bear witness that there
is no god except Allah and
that her husband was the
Messenger of Allah. Her
husband was our beloved
Prophet Muhammad, (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) and she was called
Khadijah, ( may Allah be
pleased with her) She was
also called Thaira, meaning
'pure'.
Khadijah, may
Allah be pleased with her,
came from a noble family.
Her father Khuwaylid had
been one of the most honored
leaders of their tribe until
he was killed in battle. Her
husband had also died,
leaving her a very wealthy
woman. When Muhammad (peace
be upon him) was still a
young man, she entrusted him
with some of her wealth,
asking him to trade with it
in Syria on her behalf. He
was already well known for
his honesty, truthfulness
and trustworthiness. He
returned from Syria after
having made a large profit
for Khadijah.
After hearing
his account of the journey,
she decided that he would
make the best of the
husbands, even though many
of the most important nobles
of the Quraish had already
proposed to her and had been
refused, and in due course
she proposed to him. After
the Prophet's uncle, Abu
Talib, had given the
proposed marriage his
blessing, Muhammad and
Khadijah were married. At
the time of the marriage,
the Prophet was twenty-five
years old, while Khadijah
was forty years old.
For the next
fifteen years they lived
happily together, and
Khadijah bore several
children. Their first child,
a son whom they named Qasim,
died when he was only two
years old. Two more sons,
called Tayyib and Tahir,
were also born, but they too
died in their infancy.
However, Muhammad and
Khadijah also had four
daughters who survived:
Zaynab, Ruqayya, Umm Kulthum
and Fatima.
No one except
Allah of course, knows more
about a man than his wife,
both his good and his bad
qualities, his strengths and
his weaknesses. The more
Khadijah came to know about
her husband, the more she
loved and respected him.
Everyone in Makka called him
'al-Amin', which means 'the
trustworthy one', and she,
more than anyone else, knew
how fitting this name was.
It became Muhammad's custom
each year to spend the month
of Ramadan in seclusion and
reflection in a cave on the
mountain of Hira, which is
on the outskirts of Makka.
Khadijah would always make
sure that he was provided
with food and drink during
his retreat. Towards the end
of one Ramadan, when he was
forty and Khadijah
fifty-five, Muhammad
suddenly appeared at their
house in the middle of the
night, trembling with fear
and saying, "Cover me up,
cover me up!"
Khadijah was
very alarmed to see him in
such a state. Quickly she
wrapped a blanket around his
shoulders and, when he had
calmed down, she asked him
to describe exactly what had
happened. He told her how a
being whom he had never seen
before - in fact it was the
angel Jibril - had suddenly
appeared to him while he was
asleep and had said, "Read!"
"But I cannot
read," he had replied, for
he was unlettered and could
neither read or write.
"Read!" the angel had
repeated, clasping Muhammad
close to his chest. "I
cannot read," he had
repeated. "Read!" the angel
had repeated, firmly
embracing him yet again.
"What shall I read?" he had
asked in desperation, and
the angel had replied:
Read, in
the Name of your Lord who
created, created man from a
clot, Read, and your Lord is
the Most Gracious, Who
taught with the pen, taught
man what he did not know. (Quran
96:1-5)
Although
Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) did not fully realize
it at the time, this was the
beginning of the revelation
of the Qur'an; but in that
first encounter with the
angel Jibril, Muhammad was
very frightened, for he did
not know who the angel
Jibril was or what was
happening. He woke up and
ran out of the cave only to
find Jibril still in front
of him, and whenever he
turned away from him, there
Jibril was in front of him
yet again, filling the
horizon with his mighty yet
beautiful form.
"Oh
Muhammad," said Jibril
eventually, "you are the
Messenger of Allah and I am
Jibril," and with these
words he disappeared from
Muhammad's sight.
After the
angel had disappeared
Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) had clambered down the
mountain as fast as he could
run, not knowing if he was
going mad and imagining
things, or if he had been
possessed by one of the
jinn.
As she
listened to Muhammad's
words, Khadijah did not
share any of these fears.
She realized that something
tremendous and awe-inspiring
had happened to her husband,
and she was certain, knowing
him as she did, that he was
neither mad nor possessed.
"Do not worry," she said,
"for by Him who has dominion
over Khadijah's soul, I hope
that you are the Prophet of
this nation. Allah would
never humiliate you, for you
are good to your relatives,
you are true to your word,
you help those who are in
need, you support the weak,
you feed the guest and you
answer the call of those who
are in distress."
When Muhammad
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) as a
little more relaxed,
Khadijah took him to see her
cousin, Waraqa ibn Nawfal,
for he was a man of
knowledge, and she was sure
that he would be able to
explain the meaning of what
had just happened to her
beloved husband. Waraqa had
studied the books of both
the Jews and the Christians
very closely and he had
learned a great deal from
many of their wisest people.
He knew that the coming of
another Prophet had been
foretold by both Moses and
Jesus, peace be on them,
anhe knew many of the signs
that would confirm the
identity of this Prophet
when he appeared.
After
listening closely to his
story, Waraqa, who was both
old and blind, exclaimed,
"This is the same being who
brought the revelations of
Allah to Moses. I wish I was
young and could be alive
whyour people will drive you
out."
"Will they
drive me out?" asked
Muhammad.
"Yes,"
replied Waraqa. "No one has
come with what you have been
given without being treated
with enmity; and if I were
to live until the day when
you are turned out, then I
would support you with all
my might. Let me just feel
your back." So, saying,
Waraqa felt between the
Prophet's shoulder-blades
and found what he was
feeling for: a small round,
slightly raised irregularity
in the skin, about the size
of a pigeon's egg. This was
yet another of the many
signs that Waraqa already
knew would indicate the
identity of the next Prophet
after Jesus, (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him).
"This is the
Seal of the Prophethood!" he
exclaimed. "Now I am certain
that you are indeed the
Prophet whose coming was
foretold in the Torah that
was revealed to Moses and in
the Injil that was revealed
to Jesus, (pbut) You are
indeed the Messenger of
Allah, and the being who
appeared to you on the
mountain was indeed the
angel Jibril!"
Khadijah as
both overjoyed and awed to
find that her understanding
of what had happened on the
mountain had been confirmed.
Not long after this
incident, Muhammad was
commanded in a subsequent
revelation from Allah,
through the angel Jibril, to
call people to worship Allah
only, and it was at this
point that Khadijah did not
hesitate in expressing in
public what she had now
known for certain in secret
for some time: " I bear
witness that there is no god
except Allah," she said,
"and I bear witness that
Muhammad is the Messenger of
Allah."
In the years
that followed, difficult
years in which the leaders
of the Quraish did
everything in their power to
stop the Prophet spreading
his message, Khadijah (may
Allah be pleased with her)
was a constant source of
help and comfort to Muhammad
(peace be upon him) in the
difficulties which he had to
face. All her wealth was
spent in the way of Allah,
helping to spread the
message of her husband,
helping to free slaves who
had embraced Islam, and
helping to feed and shelter
the community of Muslims
that slowly but surely began
to grow in numbers and
strength.
The Quraish
were infuriated by the
Prophet's success and did
everything in their power to
discourage both him and his
followers, often inflicting
awful tortures on them, but
without success. The
situation became so bad that
the Prophet told some of his
followers to go to
Abyssinia, where their
ruler, the Negus, who was a
sincere Christian gave them
shelter and protection.
Eventually there came a time
when, as Waraqa had
foretold, Muhammad and his
followers -along with all
the members of his tribe,
the Banu Hashim were driven
out of the city of Mecca and
forced to camp out in a
small ravine in the
mountains nearby. This
happened long after Waraqa
had died, and about seven
years after that
extraordinary night of power
in which Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) had received the first
revelation of Quran through
the angel Jibril. There,
while their homes lay empty
in Mecca, the Muslims were
exposed to the bitterly cold
nights of winter and the
fiery hot days of summer,
with very little food and
shelter. No one would buy
and sell with the Muslims,
or allow their sons and
daughters to marry any of
them. Fortunately those who
secretly sympathized with
the Muslims would send what
food they could to them
whenever the chance arose,
sometimes by loading
provisions onto a camel or a
horse and then sending it
off at a gallop in the
direction of the camp,
hoping that the animal would
not stop or get lost before
it reached its intended
destination.
For three
years the small Muslim
community lived a life of
hardship and deprivation,
but although they suffered
from hunger and thirst, and
from exposure to heat and
cold, this was a time in
which the hearts of the
first Muslims were both
purified and also filled
with the light of knowledge
and wisdom. The Muslims knew
that they were following the
truth, and so nothing else
mattered. They did not care
what the Quraish did to them
or said about them. Allah
and His Messenger were
enough for them!
It was during
this period that the Muslims
who had sought shelter in
Abyssinia returned, only to
find the situation even
worse than when they had
left it. Not long after,
many of them returned to
Abyssinia, their numbers
swelled by those whom the
Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) had
told to accompany them.
Finally the boycott was
lifted and the Muslims were
allowed to re enter the
city; but the three years of
hardship had taken their
toll. First of all the
Prophet's uncle, Abu Talib,
who was by then more than
eighty years old, died; and
then a few months later,
during the month of Ramadan,
Khadijah also died, at the
age of sixty-five, may Allah
be pleased with her. The
Prophet Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) mourned her deeply.
They had shared twenty-five
years of marriage together
and she had given birth to
five of his children. Only
one of the Prophet's future
wives, Maria the Copt, would
give him another child,
Ibrahim, and he, like Qasim,
was destined to die when he
was still very young, at the
age of eighteen months.
Khadijah had
been the first to publicly
accept Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) as the Messenger of
Allah, and she had never
stopped doing all she could
to help him. Love and mercy
had grown between them,
increasing in quality and
depth as the years passed
by, and not even death could
take this love away. The
Prophet Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) never stopped loving
Khadijah, and although he
married several more wives
in later years and loved
them all, it is clear that
Khadijah always had a
special place in his heart.
Indeed whenever 'Aisha, his
third wife, heard the
Prophet speak of Khadijah,
or saw him sending food to
Khadijah's old friends and
relatives, she could not
help feeling jealous of her,
because of the love that the
Prophet still had for her.
Once Aisha
asked him if Khadijah had
been the only woman worthy
of his love. The Prophet
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) replied:
"She believed in me when no
one else did; she accepted
Islam when people rejected
me; and she helped and
comforted me when there was
no one else to lend me a
helping hand." It had been
related by Abu Hurairah (may
Allah be pleased with him)
that on one occasion, when
Khadijah was still alive,
Jibril came to the Prophet
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) and said,
"O Messenger of Allah,
Khadijah is just coming with
a bowl of soup (or food or
drink) for you. When she
comes to you, give her
greetings of peace from her
Lord and from me, and give
her the good news of a
palace of jewels in the
Garden, where there will be
neither any noise nor any
tiredness." After the
Prophet's uncle, Abu Talib,
and his first wife, Khadijah,
had both died in the same
year, the Prophet Muhammad
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) and his
small community of believers
endured a time of great
hardship and persecution at
the hands of the Quraish.
Indeed the Prophet, who was
now fifty years old, name
this year 'the Year of
Sorrow.'
In private
his dearest wife was no
longer present to share his
life; and in public the
insults that he received
from the Quraish multiplied,
now that he had no longer
had the protection of his
dead uncle. Even when he
journeyed to Ta'if, a small
city up in the mountains
outside Mecca, to call its
people to worship Allah, he
was rejected and stoned by
them. It has been related by
Aisha that on his way back
to Mecca, Jibril appeared to
the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) and said, "Allah, may
He be exalted and glorified,
has heard what the people
have said to you and how
they have responded to your
invitation, and he has sent
the angel in charge of the
mountains so that you can
tell him what you want him
to with them." Then the
angel in charge of the
mountains called out to him
and greeted him and said, "O
Muhammad, Allah has listened
to what your people have
said to you. I am the angel
in charge of the mountains,
and your Lord has sent me so
that you can order me to do
whatever you want. If you
wish, I can bring the
mountain of the outskirts of
Mecca together so that they
are crushed between them."
But the Messenger of Allah
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) said to
him, "Rather I hope that
Allah will make their
descendants a people who
will worship Allah alone,
without ascribing any
partners to him."
It was a
while after this that
tfollowing Surah was
revealed:
In the
name of Allah, the Merciful,
the Compassionate
By the
morning hours, and by the
night when it is stillest,
Your Lord has not forsake
you nor does He hate you,
And truly what comes after
will be better for you than
what has come before, And
truly your Lord will give to
you so that you will be
content. Did he not find you
an orphan and protect you?
Did he not find you
wandering and guide you? Did
he not find you destitute
and enrich you? So do not
oppress the orphan, And do
not drive the beggar away,
And speak about the
blessings of Your Lord.
(Quran 93:1-11)
And so it
happened. After three years
of constant struggle, a
relative of his, called
Khawla, went to him and
pointed out that his house
was sadly neglected and that
his daughters needed a
mother to look after them.
"But who can take the place
of Khadijah?" he asked.
"Aisha, the daughter of Abu
Bakr, the dearest of people
to you," she answered. Abu
Bakr (may Allah be pleased
with him) had been the first
man to accept Islam and he
was the Prophet's closest
companion. Like Khadijah, he
had done all that he could
do to help the Prophet
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him), and had
spent all his wealth in the
way of Allah. However, while
the Prophet Muhammad (peace
and blessings of Allah be
upon him) was now
fifty-three years old, Aisha
as only a little girl of
seven. She was hardly in a
position to look after
either the Prophet's
household or children. "She
is very young." Replied the
Prophet. Khawla had a
solution for everything. She
suggested that he marry at
the same time a lady called
Sawda, the widow of
Al-Sakran ibn 'Amr.
2-SAWDA
bint Zam'a
Sawda bint
Zam'a, may Allah be pleased
with her had been the first
woman to immigrate to
Abyssinia in the way of
Allah. Her husband ha died
and she was now living with
her aged father. She was
middle-aged, rather plump,
with a jolly, kindly
disposition, and just the
right person to take care of
the Prophet's household and
family. So Muhammad (peace
and blessings of Allah be
upon him) gave permission to
Khawla to speak to Sayyiduna
Abu Bakr and to Sawda on the
subject. Khawla went
straight to Sawda and said,
"Would you like Allah to
give you great blessing,
Sawda?" Sawda asked, "And
what is that, Khawla?" She
said, "The Messenger of
Allah has sent me to you
with a proposal of
marriage!" Sawda tried to
contain herself in spite of
her utter astonishment and
then replied in a trembling
voice, "I would like that!
Go to my father and tell him
that." Khawla went to Zam'a,
ad gruff old man, and
greeted him and then said,
"Muhammad son of Abdullah
son of Abdul Muttalib, has
sent me to ask for Sawda in
marriage." The old man
shouted, "A noble match.
What does she say?" Khawla
replied, "she would like
that." He told her to call
her. When she came, he said,
"Sawda, this woman claims
that Muhammad son of
Abdullah son of Abdul
Muttalib has sent me to ask
for you in marriage. It is a
noble match. Do you want me
to marry you to him?" She
accepted, feeling it was a
great honor. Sawda went to
live in Muhammad's house and
immediately took over the
care of his daughters and
household, while Aisha bint
Abu Bakr became betrothed to
him and remained in her
father's house playing with
her dolls.
There was
great surprise in Mecca that
the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) would choose to marry a
widow who was neither young
nor beautiful. The Prophet,
however, remembered the
trials she had undergone
when she had immigrated to
Abyssinia, leaving her house
and property, and crossed
the desert and then the sea
for an unknown land out of
the desire to preserve her
deen. During the next two
years, the Quraish increased
their spiteful efforts to
destroy the Prophet and his
followers, in spite of the
clear signs that confirmed
beyond any doubt that
Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) was indeed the
Messenger of Allah. Perhaps
the greatest of these signs
during this period was the
Prophet's Mi'raj, his
journey by night on a winged
horse called the Buraq,
through the skies to the
Al-Aqsa Mosque in Jerusalem
where he led all the earlier
Prophets who had lived
before him in the prayer,
followed by his ascent on
the Buraq, accompanied by
Jibril, through the seven
heavens, and then beyond the
world of forms, to the
Presence of Allah where he
was given the five prayers
that all his true followers
have done ever since.
When he
described this miraculous
journey to the people of
Mecca, they just laughed at
him, even though he
accurately described the
Al-Aqsa Mosque to them (and
they knew that he had never
been there before), and even
though he described the
place where he had stopped
for a drink on the way to
Jerusalem, and even though
he told them how on the way
he had told a man where his
lost camel was, and even
though he told them that he
was seen a caravan, which no
one knew about, approaching
Mecca and that it should
arrive later on that day.
Even though the Quraish knew
that the Prophet's
description of the Al-Aqsa
Mosque was completely
accurate, and even when they
eventually saw the caravan
arrive, and met the man whom
he had helped, and saw the
place where he had stopped
for a drink, the still
refused to believe him.
Only
Sayyiduna Abu Bakr, his
closest companion and future
father in law, accepted the
Prophet's account of his
miraculous journey
immediately: "If he had said
this," he said, when some
scornful Meccans first gave
him the news, "then it is
true!"
As the enmity
of the Quraish increased,
(and while Aisha was still a
small girl), Allah prepared
the way for the future
growth of the Muslim
community in a place called
Yathrib. During the time of
pilgrimage in Mecca one
year, twelve men from
Yathrib, a small city of two
hundred miles to the north
of Mecca, secretly pledged
allegiance to the Prophet,
swearing to worship no gods
other than Allah, nor to
steal, nor to tell lies, nor
to commit adultery, nor to
kill their children, nor to
disobey the Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allah be
upon him). They returned to
Yathrib, accompanied by a
Muslim called Mus'ab ibn
Umayr, who taught them all
that he had learned from the
Prophet.
As a result,
the numbers of Muslims in
Madina began to increase,
and when the time of the
pilgrimage came again, this
time seventy five people
from Yathrib- three of whom
were women: Umm Sulaym,
Nsayba bint Ka'b and Asma
bint Amr - pledged
allegiance in Mecca to the
Prophet Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) this time also swearing
that the would defend and
protect him, even to the
death if need be. After
this, the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) gave his followers
permission to emigrate to
Yathrib, and slowly but
surely, in twos and threes,
the Muslims began to leave
Mecca. The leaders of the
Quraish realized what was
happening, and decided to
kill the Prophet before he
had a chance to join them.
However, Allah protected the
Prophet, and on the very
night before the morning on
which they had planned to
kill him, the Prophet
Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) and Abu Bakr (may Allah
be pleased with him) slipped
out of Mecca and hid in a
cave called Thawr, which was
to the south of Mecca.
Everybody
knows what happened when the
people who were hunting for
them came to the cave: They
found a wild dove nesting in
the tree that covered the
mouth of a cave, across
which a spider had spun its
web. Anyone entering the
cave would have frightened
away the dove and broken the
spid's web, they thought, so
they did and not bother to
look inside it. Their
pursuers were so close that
if one of them had glanced
down at his feet, he would
have discovered them. By the
decree of Allah, the Prophet
and Abu Bakr were safe!
Once the
Quraish had given up the
search, the Prophet Muhammad
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) and Abu
Bakr (may Allah be pleased
with him) circled round the
Mecca and rode northwards.
Only one man, a warrior
called Suraqa ibn Jusham,
suspected their whereabouts
and set off in hot pursuit,
thirsting of the reward that
the Quraish had offered to
anyone who captured the two
men for them. As soon as he
as within shouting distance
of the travelers, however,
his horse suddenly began to
sink into the sand, and,
realizing that if he did not
turn back, then the desert
would simply swallow up both
him and his steed, he gave
up his pursuit, asked them
to forgive him and returned
home.
After a long,
hard journey Prophet
Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) and Abu Bakr (may Allah
be pleased with him) reached
Yathrib amidst scenes of
great rejoicing. Their time
in Mecca had just come to an
end, and their time in
Medina had just begun - for
Madina is the name that was
now given to Yathrib, Madina
al Munawarra, which means
'the illuminated city', the
city that was illuminated by
the light of the Prophet
Muhammad and his family and
his Companions, may the
blessings and peace of Allah
be upon him and on all of
them. The journey of the
Prophet Muhammad and Abu
Bakr is usually called the
hijrah, and it is at this
point that the dating of the
Muslims begins, for it was
after the hijrah that the
first community of Muslims
rapidly grew and flowered
and bore fruit. When she was
older, the prophet was
worried that Sawda might be
upset about having to
compete with so many younger
wives, and offered to
divorce her. She said that
she would give her night to
Aisha, of whom she was very
fond, because she only
wanted to be his wife on the
Day of Rising. She lived on
until the end of the time of
Umar ibn al Khattab. She and
Aisha always remained very
close.
3-AISHA
bint Abi Bakr
Gradually the
Muslims who remained in
Mecca left the city and
traveled to Medina to join
their beloved Prophet, and
amongst them was a little
girl called 'A'isha, the
daughter of Abu Bakr. Soon
after arriving in Medina,
'A'isha, who was now nine
years old, as married to the
Prophet Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him), who was now fifty-four
years old. It was at this
point that she left her
family's household and
joined that the Prophet
Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him). 'A'isha later reported
that the Prophet Muhammad
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) had told
her that Jibril came to him
and showed him a picture of
her on a piece of green silk
and said, "She is your wife
in this world and in the
next world." About her
wedding, she related that
shortly before she was to
leave her parents' house,
she slipped out into the
courtyard to play with a
friend. "I was playing on a
seesaw and my long streaming
hair became disheveled," she
said. "They came and took me
from my play and made me
ready." They dressed her in
a wedding dress made from
fine red striped cloth from
Bahrain and then her mother
took her to the newly built
house where some women of
the Ansar were waiting
outside the door. They
greeted her with the words,
"For good and for happiness,
may all be well." Then, in
the presence of the smiling
Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) a bowl
of milk was brought. The
Prophet drank from it
himself and then offered it
to 'A'isha. She shyly
declined it, but when he
insisted she drink as well
and then offered the bowl to
her sister Asma' who was
sitting beside her. The
others who were present also
drank from it, and that was
all there was to the simple
and solemn occasion of their
wedding.
Her marriage
to the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) did not change
'A'isha's playful ways, and
her young friends continued
to regularly come to visit
her in her own room. "I
would be playing with my
dolls," she once said, 'with
the girls who were my
friends, and the Prophet
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) would
come in and they would slip
out of the house and he
would go out after them and
bring them back, for he was
pleased for my sake to have
them there." Sometimes he
would say, "Stay, where you
are," before they had time
to leave, and would also
join in their games. "One
day," 'A'isha said, "the
Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) came
in when I was playing with
my dolls and said, "'A'isha,
whatever game is this?' 'It
is Solomon's horses,' I
replied, and he laughed." On
another occasion, during the
days of the Id al Adha, two
young girls were with
'A'isha in her room, singing
a song about the famous
battle of Bu'ath and beating
a tambourine in time. "The
Messenger of Allah (peace
and blessings of Allah be
upon him) came in," said
'A'isha, 'and lay down with
his face turned away. Then
Abu Bakr came, and scolded
me, saying, 'What is this
musical instrument of
Shaytan doing in the house
of the Messenger of Allah?'
The Messenger of Allah
turned towards him and said,
'Leave them alone, for these
are the days of the 'Id.'"
After a
while, 'A'isha asked the
girls to leave, and the
Prophet asked 'A'isha
whether she would like to
watch the Abyssinians who
were giving a fighting
display with their weapons
in the mosque and she said
yes. "By Allah," said
'A'isha, "I remember the
Messenger of Allah (peace
and blessings of Allah be
upon him) standing at the
door of my room, screening
me with his cloak, so that I
could see the sport of the
Abyssinians as they played
with their spears in the
mosque of the Messenger of
Allah (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him). He
kept standing for my sake
until I had enough and then
I went back in, so you can
well imagine how a young
girl enjoyed watching this
display."
Some might
have viewed the marriage of
Muhammad and 'A'isha as an
exceptional marriage, but
then the two partners were
exceptional people. The
Prophet Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) was the last of the
Prophets and the best of
creation; and 'A'isha was a
very intelligent and
observant young girl with a
very good memory. 'A'isha
(may Allah be pleased with
her) spent the next nine
years of her life with the
Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him), and
she grew into womanhood, she
remembered all that she saw
and heard with great
clarity, for to be the wife
of the Prophet was even more
than extraordinary. So much
happened around him - the
Quran continued to be
revealed, ayat by ayat, and
people's hearts were
constantly being turned over
and transformed, including
hers and she was a witness
of so much of all that took
place. It is not surprising,
therefore, that a great deal
of the knowledge that we
still have today, about how
our beloved Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allah be
upon him) lived and behaved,
was first remembered and
then taught to others by
'A'isha. It is thanks to
this exceptional marriage,
between a man nearing the
end of his life and a woman
still near the beginning of
hers, that we know so much
about the both of them, and
this is what makes it so
much easier for those who
wish to follow in their
footsteps to try and follow
their example.
Whereas
Khadijah was already a wise
and mature woman when she
married the Prophet
Muhammad, 'A'isha was a
spirited young girl who
still had a great deal to
learn when she married the
Prophet, (may Allah be
pleased with her, and peace
be upon him) she was very
quick to learn, however, for
she had a clear heart, and a
quick mind and an accurate
memory. She was not afraid
to talk back in order to
find out the truth or make
it known, and whenever she
beat someone else in
argument, the Prophet would
smile and say, "She is the
daughter of Abu Bakr!" Musa
ibn Talha once said, "I have
not seen anyone more
eloquent than 'A'isha."
'A'isha (may Allah be
pleased with her) became so
wise that one of her
contemporaries used to say
that if the knowledge of
'A'isha were placed on one
side of the scales that of
all other women on the
other, 'A'isha 's side would
outweigh the other. She used
to sit with the other women
and pass on the knowledge
that she had received from
the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) and long after he had
died, and as long as she
lived, she was a source of
knowledge and wisdom for
both women and men. Abu Musa
once said, "Whenever a
report appeared doubtful to
us, the Companions of the
Prophet, and we asked
'A'isha about it, we always
learned something from her
about it."
On one
occasion, the Prophet
Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) said to her, "O
'A'isha, here is Jibril
giving you greetings of
peace." "And on him be
peace." She said, 'and the
mercy of Allah." When she
was telling Abu Salama about
this, she added, "He
(meaning the Prophet
Muhammad (peace be upon him)
) sees what I do not see."
As well as being extremely
intelligent, 'A'isha became
a very graceful young woman.
When she first came to live
in the Prophet's household
as a young girl, a strong
and lasting friendship grew
up between her and Sawda,
and Sawda took care of her
along with the rest of the
household. When 'A'isha grew
up, Sawda, who was by then
an old woman, gave up her
share of the Prophet's time
in favor of 'A'isha and was
content to manage his
household and be Umm al
Mumineen - 'The Mother
of the Believers' - a title
of respect that was given to
all of the wives of the
Prophet, (may Allah be
pleased with them), which
confirmed what the Quran
clearly states that no man
could marry any of them
after they had been married
to the Prophet for:
The
Prophet is closer to the
believers than their
ownselves, and his wives are
as their mothers. (Qur'an:
33:6)
O you
wives of the Prophet, if any
of you is openly indecent,
the punishment for her will
be doubled - and that is
easy for Allah. And whoever
of you submits to Allah and
His Messenger has right
action, We shall give her a
reward twice over and We
have prepared a generous
provision for her. O you
wives of the Prophet, you
are not like any other
women. If you are fearful of
Allah then do not be soft in
yspeech, lest someone whose
heart is sick is attracted
to you, but speak words that
are wise. And stay quietly
in your houses, do not make
a dazzling display like that
of the time of ignorance
before and establish prayer
and pay the Zakat and obey
Allah and His Messenger.
Surely Allah wishes to
remove impurity far from
you, O People of the House,
and to purify you
completely. And remember
that ayahs of Allah that are
recited in your houses and
the wisdom. Surely Allah is
Alpervading, All Aware. (Quran
33:30-34)
It is
sometimes difficult to
picture what life must have
been like for the wives and
the Companions of the
Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him)
because the light that
emanated from him and
through them was so unique.
The Messenger of Allah
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) had no
shadow because he was light
and this light illuminated
the hearts and minds and
understanding of his
followers, giving them
insight without blinding
them. The Prophet Muhammad
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) was truly
a mercy to all the worlds,
and no one with a clean
heart could possibly forget
this, least of all the
Prophet himself.
O Prophet,
surely We have sent you as a
witness and as a bringer of
good news and a warner; and
one who calls the people to
Allah by His permission, and
as a shining light. (Quran
33:45-46)
It is said
that people were awed by the
Prophet Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) when they were in his
presence, and that they sat
and listened to his words
with their eyes lowered, as
if they had birds perched on
their heads, and that they
would do anything for him,
so great was their love for
him. It was because of the
perfection of the Prophet
Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) that everyone was
commanded to ask blessings
on him:
Allah and
His angels pray blessings on
the Prophet; O you who
believe! Pray blessings of
him and ask for peace for
him. (Quran 33:56)
It was
because of the Prophet
Muhammad's unique station
with Allah that his wives
and his Companions were
expected by Allah to behave
with such respect and
courtesy towards the Prophet
Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him); and that his wives
could not possibly marry
anyone else after having
been married to him:
When you
ask his wives for something,
ask them from behind a
screen. That is purer for
your hearts and for their
hearts. It is not for you to
cause injury to the
Messenger of Allah, or ever
marry his wives after him.
To do that would be
something dreadful in the
sight of Allah. (Quran
33:53)
During the
nine years that 'A'isha was
married to the Prophet
Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) she witnessed many of
the great events that shaped
the destiny of the first
Muslim community of Madina
al Munawarra: It was during
the course of their marriage
that she direction of the
qibla was changed from
Jerusalem to Mecca, thereby
more clearly distinguishing
the Muslims from the Jews
and the Christians, and it
was during the course of
their marriage that she must
have listened to many of the
Jews and the Christians an
the idol worshippers who
came not to listen to the
Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) but to
argue with him, in the hope
that they could find a
plausible excuse to justify
their rejection of him. It
was through exchange such as
these that 'A'isha learned
to distinguish what was true
from what was false. As the
prophetic guidance continued
to be revealed through the
Prophet Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him), 'A'isha's way of life
- along with that of all the
Muslims - was gradually
reshaped and refined: It was
during the course of their
marriage that drinking
alcohol was finally
forbidden, that it was made
clear what food was halal
and what food was haram,
that it became necessary for
women to wear the hijab in
public and when praying,
that the guidance as to how
to fast was revealed, that
paying the Zakat became
obligatory on all Muslims,
and that all rites of the
hajj were purified and
clarified.
In fact every
aspect of life, from birth
to death and everything that
happens in between, was
illuminated by the way in
which the Prophet behaved -
and it was this way of
behavior, the Sunna, that 'A'isha
helped to preserve and
protect, not only by
embodying it herself, but
also by teaching it to
others. 'A'isha was once
asked to describe the
Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him), and
she replied that he was 'the
Quran walking', meaning that
his behavior was the Quran
translated into action. She
did all that she could to do
likewise. Thus she not only
knew and embodied the Sunna,
but also she memorized the
Quran by heart and
understood it. It was during
the course of their marriage
that, amongst others, the
battles of Badr, and Uhud,
and Al-Khandaq (the Ditch)
were fought. These were the
three major battles against
the Quraish, that shifted
the balance of power out of
the hands of the kafirun and
into the hands of the
Muslims. Although she was
still very young, 'A'isha
participated in them all,
bringing water for the
Muslims warriors, and
helping to look after the
wounded. She witnessed life,
and she witnessed death -
both in the way of Allah and
in the way of the kafirun -
and she understood both.
Indeed one of the meanings
of her name, 'A'isha', is
'life'.
It was during
the course of their marriage
that the Jews plotted and
tried to kill the Prophet on
more than one occasion,
without success, and were
punished for this. First the
Banu Qayunqa and then the
Banu Nadir were expelled
from Medina; and then Banu
Qurayza - who had broken
their agreement with the
Muslims during the battle of
al-Khandaq and conspired to
exterminate all of them -
were subjected to the
punishment that was decided
by the man whom they
themselves had chosen to
judge their actions, Sa'id
ibn Mu'adh. In accordance
with the commands contained
in their own book, the
Torah, all the men were
killed - with the exception
of four who accepted Islam
and all the women and
children were taken as
slaves. It was after this
event that another tribe,
the Banu al Mustaliq began
to prepare to fight the
Muslims, and accordingly the
Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) led an
army against them. Often
when the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) went to war, he took
one of his wives with him.
He did not choose anyone in
particular, but simply drew
lots and took the wife whose
name came out. When he went
to fight the Banu al-Mustaliq,
the lot fell to 'A'isha, and
she it was who traveled with
him.
'A'isha who
was now thirteen years old,
was small, slim, and
graceful, so that it was
difficult for the men who
carried her litter to know
for certain whether or not
she was actually inside it
when they lifted it up. On
the way back to Medina,
after the Banu al Mustaliq
had been subdued, the Muslim
army stopped for a rest, but
then the Prophet
unexpectedly ordered the
army to continue the march
back. Unknown to everyone
else, 'A'isha had stepped
out of her litter for a few
minutes and had left the
camp, seeking some privacy.
On her way back she had
noticed that her onyx
necklace was missing and so
she retraced her steps to
try and find it. When she
had at last found it finally
returned to the camp, it was
to find that everyone had
gone. The men who had been
carrying her litter had
thought she was still in it,
and had picked it up,
strapped it to the camel and
marched on. 'A'isha, who
trusted completely in Allah,
sat down, and waited, hoping
that someone would notice
her absence and come back
for her. Fortunately she did
not have long to wait, for a
young Muslim man named
Safwan ibn al-Mu'attal, who
had fallen behind the army
after taking a rest, reached
the camp during the night
and found her lying fast
asleep. Safwan immediately
recognizing her, because he
had seen her in the early
days before Allah had
commanded Muslim women to
wear the hijab.
"Inna lillahi
wa inna ilayhi raji'un!" -
"Surely we come from Allah
and surely to Him we
return!" he exclaimed in
surprise, waking 'A'isha up
with the loudness of his
voice. He did not say
anything else, and a'A'isha
put the scarf that had
fallen off her head while
she was asleep back on,
Safwan made his camel kneel
down close to her so that
she could climb up on to it;
and then, leading the camel
with his hand, he set off on
foot after the army, hoping
that they would soon catch
up with it which they
eventually did later the
next morning, since the army
had halted for a rest during
the hottest part of the day.
Unfortunately, some
hypocrites who had seen
Safwan and 'A'isha arrive
alone together began to
gossip and spread slanderous
lies about them. Eventually
the story reached the
Prophet himself (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) and by then the whole
community was talking about
what might or might now have
happened before the two
young Muslims. Naturally the
muminun were certain that
noting bad had happened, but
the munafiqun thought
otherwise and were not
afraid to insinuate that was
the case.
As a result
of all this gossip, the
Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) and
his household came under a
great strain, and in fact 'A'isha
herself fell ill, not
because she was aware of
what the hypocrites were
saying about her, but
because the Prophet did not
seem to care for her as much
as he had done before the
campaign against the Banu al
Mustaliq. Finally, someone
told her what some people
were saying. This made 'A'isha
even more ill, so with the
Prophet's permission, she
went to stay at the house of
her parents. When she
arrived, she said to her
mother, Umm Ruman, "Mother!
What are the people saying?"
She replied "O my daughter!
Do not make too much of the
business. By Allah, seldom
has there been a woman of
beauty with a husband who
loves her and who has co
wives but that people say a
lot against her." A'isha
said, "Glory be to Allah!
The people have really been
saying this?" 'A'isha said,
"I have spent the entire
night until morning unable
to stop weeping and could
not sleep at all. Morning
found me still weeping." In
the meantime, when Safwan
was confronted with the
allegations that had been
made, he replied, "Glory be
to Allah! By Allah, I have
never removed the veil of
any woman!" Since there had
been no revelation to
clarify the matter, the
Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) asked
Barira, who was 'A'isha 's
maid servant, if she had
seen anything in 'A'isha' s
behavior that was at all
doubtful. "By Him who sent
you with the truth," she
replied, "I have not seen
nothing wrong with her,
other than that she is a
young girl and sometimes she
falls asleep while she is
kneading the dough and a
lamb comes along and eats
it!" Some of the companions
who were present scolded
Barira and told her to come
to the point. "Glory be to
Allah!" she replied. "I know
as much about her as a
jeweler knows about a piece
of pure gold!"
The Prophet
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) also
asked Zaynab bint Jahsh for
her opinion, since he valued
it highly. Although she and
A'isha were frequently at
odds with one another and
Zaynab's sister Hamna, was
the one of those who were
actively gossiping and
spreading the rumor, she
replied without hesitation,
"O Messenger of Allah," she
said, "I will not repeat
anything that I have not
heard with my own ears and
seen with my own eyes. By
Allah, I find nothing in her
but goodness."
The Prophet
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) then
tried to vindicate A'isha's
honor by calling everyone to
the mosque and publicly
defending her reputation,
but the hypocrites who had
started the trouble in the
first place only made matter
worse, so that arguments
broke out all over the
mosque, and people had
almost come to blows over
the matter before the
Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) calmed
them down and silenced them.
The Prophet
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) then came
to Abu Bakr's house, where
A'isha had been crying her
heart out, and in the
presence of her parents said
the shahada, and then
continued, "If you are
innocent, then Allah Himself
will protect your honor, and
if by accident there has
been a lapse on your part,
then seek the forgiveness of
Allah and He will pardon
you, for when a slave admits
a fault and turns to Him in
repentance, then Allah also
turns and accepts that
repentance."
A'isha said,
"When the Messenger of Allah
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) finished
what he was saying, my tears
stopped so that I was not
aware of a single tear. I
said to my father, 'Answer
the Messenger of Allah for
me regarding what he has
said.' He said, 'By Allah, I
do not know what to say to
the Messenger of Allah,' I
said to my mother, 'Answer
the Messenger of Allah for
me regarding what he has
said.' She said, 'By Allah,
I do not know what to say to
the Messenger of Allah.'"
A'isha said,
"I am a young girl who does
not yet recite much of the
Qur'an. By Allah, I know
that you have heard this
story that people are saying
and it has become fixed in
yourself and you have
believed it. If I were to
say to you that I am
innocent, you would not
believe me. If I were to
confess to something to you
and Allah knows that I am
innocent you would believe
me. By Allah, I can only say
what the father of Yusuf
said, Patience is
beautiful, and Allah is my
protection against what you
describe. (Quran 12:18)"
Then I turned over on my
bed, Allah knowing that I
was innocent and hoping that
Allah would proclaim me
innocent. However, by Allah,
I did not think that any
relation would be sent down
regarding me. I thought too
little of myself that
something would be said in
the Qur'an regarding me,
however I hoped that the
Messenger of Allah (peace
and blessings of Allah be
upon him) would have a dream
in which Allah would
exonerate me. She had hardly
finished speaking when the
Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him)
received a direct revelation
of some more ayahs of the
Qur'an, and when it was
over, he smiled and said,
"Do not worry, 'A'isha, for
Allah has revealed proof of
your innocence."
A'isha's
mother, who had been
standing next to her, said,
"Get up and thank him."
"By Allah,"
exclaimed A'isha, whose
title, 'Siddiqa', means 'the
truthful one', "I will not
thank him and praise him but
rather Allah Who has given
the revelation that has
protected my honor!" Then
the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) went to the mosque and
recited what had just been
sent down:
Surely
those who fabricate the lie
are a group from among you.
Do not think it is bad thing
for you; no it is good for
you. Every man will receive
what he has earned for this
sin, and whoever had the
greater part in it will have
a great punishment. Why did
the men and women believers,
when they heard it, not
think good in their selves
and say: 'This is clearly a
lie?' Why did they not
produce four witnesses?
Since they did not produce
witnesses, they are
certainly liars in the sight
of Allah. If it were not for
the grace of Allah, and His
mercy on you in this world
and in the next world, an
awful doom would have
overtaken you for what you
repeated. Since you received
it with your tongues, and
repeated what you did not
know anything about with
your mouths, you thought it
was a trifle, but in the
sight of Allah it is
serious. Why, when you heard
it, did you not say: 'It is
not for us to repeat this,
Glory be to You (O Allah),
this is a serious rumor.'
Allah warns you to never
repeat anything like this
again, if you are indeed
believers and Allah makes
the signs clear to you; and
Allah is Knowing, Wise.
Surely those who love to
spread around slander about
those who believe will have
a painful punishment in this
world and in the next world;
and Allah knows and you do
not know. (Quran 24:11-19).
A'isha
forgave those who had let
themselves be caught in the
slander and in later years
would not hear anything bad
said about them. The fact
that A'isha' s honor and
reputation had been
protected by a revelation
from Allah could not be
ignored by anyone, and from
then on everyone was more
aware of her high station
with Allah. It was also
during the course of
A'isha's marriage with the
Prophet Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) that the Muslim
commexpanded so rapidly that
Mecca was eventually
conquered by the Muslim
army, and preparations were
made for the first of the
many battles that were
successfully fought against
the Greeks and the Persians
after the letters from
Muhammad inviting Heraclius
and Choroes to embrace Islam
and worship Allah alone had
been contemptuously ignored.
This
extraordinary expansion -
even the idea of which
would, at the time of
Khadijah' s death (may Allah
be pleased with her) have
seemed like a wild dream was
heralded, in 6 AH, by the
treaty of Hudaybiyya, by
virtue of which peace was
declared between the Quraish
and the Muslims for ten
years, and the right of the
Muslims to enter Mecca and
do 'umra unharmed was
recognized by the Quraish.
Although the
Muslims had to wait for a
year before they could do
umra, that year was not long
in passing, and in the
interval the Jews of
Khaybar, who like the other
Jews around Madina had
attempted to destroy the
Muslim community by breaking
their peace agreement with
the Muslims and supporting
the idol worshippers were
fought and defeated. After
the Jews of Khaybar had been
defeated, a Jewess managed
to serve the Prophet some
poisoned meat, which itself
informed him that it had
been poisoned, so that he
only had a small taste of
it. Even though one of his
companions who had already
eaten some of the meat
subsequently died, the
Messenger of Allah (peace
and blessings of Allah be
upon him) forgave the Jewess
and let her go free.
The Jews of
Khaybar were permitted to
stay on their land provided
that they paid a yearly
tribute to the Muslims. As a
result, some of the Muslims
began to grow more wealthy
than they had been in the
past. Indeed on one
occasion, the Prophet's
wives, led by 'A'isha and
Hafsa, asked him for some
money that he did not have
for there was never one
night that he lay down to
sleep with any money in his
possession. The Prophet
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) was
distressed by this not
because he did not have the
money to give to them, but
rather because it was this
that apparently they
desired.
At this time,
both Abu Bakr and Umar
visited him and they found
the Messenger of Allah
seated, surrounded by his
wives who were all silent.
Abu Bakr said to himself,
"By Allah, I will say
something to cheer up the
Messenger of Allah!' So he
said, "Messenger of Allah,
if I were to see the
daughter of Kharija asking
me for money, I would strike
her on the neck!" The
Messenger of Allah smiled
and said, 'These ones you
see around me have asked me
for money." SO Abu Bakr went
to grab A'isha and Umar went
to grab Hafsa, both
exclaiming, "DO you ask the
Messenger of Allah for
something he does not have!"
The women said, "By Allah,
we would never ask the
Messenger of Allah for
something he does not have!"
This was not
the only marital problem
which he experienced at this
time. There was a great deal
of rivalry between some of
the wives and also Hafsa had
told A'isha something which
the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) had told her not to
disclose because it was
something which would
increase the friction
between the wives. Some
sources say that he had told
her that Abu Bakr and Umar
would rule after him. In any
case, he stayed away from
them for a whole month,
during which many of his
Companions began to think
either that he was going to
divorce them or that he had
already done so.
IT is related
by Umar (may Allah be
pleased with him) that he
went to visit the Prophet
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) who was
staying alone in a small
upper room, in order to find
out what was happening.
First of all he visited his
daughter Hafsa, who was
weeping, and asked her if
the Prophet had divorced his
wives. "I don't know," she
sobbed. Then he went and
asked to see the Prophet.
After he had been given
permission to enter, Umar
climbed up the ladder and
into the small room: "I
visited Allah's Messenger
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) and he
was lying on a mat. I saw
down and he drew up his
lower garment over him. He
had nothing else on, and the
mat had left its marks on
his sides. I looked around
at what stores Allah's
Messenger (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) had, and saw only a
handful of barley equal to
one sa' and an equal amount
of mimosa leaves in the
corner of the room and
tanned leather bag handing
nearby, and I as moved to
tears. HE said, 'Ibn al
Khattab, what is making you
cry?' I replied, 'O
Messenger of Allah, how can
I not cry? This mat has left
marks on your sides and I
can only see what I have
seen of your stores. Caesar
and Chosroes are leading
their lives of plenty, while
you are the Messenger of
Allah, His Chosen One, and
look what you have!' 'Ibn al
Khattab,' he answered,
'isn't it enough for you
that for us there is the
next world, and for them
there is this world?' 'Yes,'
I said. Then I said, 'O
Messenger of Allah, what has
happened with your wives? If
you have divorced them, then
truly Allah is with you, and
His angels, Jibril and
Mika'il, and Abu Bakr and I
and the believers are with
you.' And seldom have I
talked like that and hoped
that Allah would testify to
the words that I uttered.
And so it happened that the
ayahs of choice were
revealed:
If you
both turn to Allah in
repentance, then that is
what your hearts desire; and
if you help each other
against him then surely
Allah Himself is his
protector, and Jibril, and
the righteous from among the
believers, and as well as
that, the angels will help
him. It maybe, if he
divorces you, that his Lord
will give him wives who are
better than you, who submit,
who believe, who are devout,
who are repentant, who
worship, who fast, whether
they have been previously
married or are virgins.
(Quran 66:4-5)
In fact the
Prophet Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) never divorced any of
his wives, and as we grow
more aware about how they
lived, may Allah be pleased
with all of them, it is
clear that they possessed
all of the qualities of the
women described in the last
ayat. Perhaps this ayat
served as a reminder to
them, a reminder that they
would remember for the rest
of their days which for most
of them lasted long after
the Prophet's (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) death.
Returning to
Sayyiduna Umar's account of
his visit to the Prophet
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) during
the month of separation from
his wives, Umar then asked,
"O Messenger of Allah, have
you divorced them?" and he
replied, "No." So after
talking for a while longer
and how in Mecca the men
tended to dominate the
women, whereas in Medina the
women tended to dominate the
men, which is what the
womenfolk from Mecca had
learned to do after they had
made hijrah to Medina - Umar
climbed down and stood at
the door of the mosque and
called out at the top of his
voice: "The Messenger of
Allah (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) has
not divorced his wives!"
After the month was up, the
Prophet Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) first went to A'isha's
room. She was delighted to
see him, but grew more
serious when he said that
some ayahs had been revealed
to him which required him to
put two options before her.
"Do not make a hasty
decision," he said, "and
consult your parents first."
He then recited these
verses:
O Prophet,
say to your wives: 'If you
desire the life of this
world and its adornments,
then come, and I will make
you content, and I will
release you with a fair
release. But if you desire
Allah and His Messenger and
the abode of the next world,
then truly Allah has
prepared an immense reward
for those of you who do
good.' (Quran 33:28-29)
"Is there any
need to consult my parents?"
replied A'isha. "Indeed I
desire Allah and His
Messenger and the abode of
the next world." And her
response was followed by all
of his other wives. A'isha
remained true to her word
both during the lifetime of
the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) and afterwards. Once,
when the Muslims were
favored with great wealth,
she as given a gift of one
hundred thousand Dhirhams.
She was fasting when she
received the money, and
distall of it to the poor
and needy, even though she
had no provisions in her
house. Shortly after that,
her maid servant said to
her, "Couldn't you have
brought a dirham's worth of
meat with which to break
your fast?" "If I had
thought of it," she replied,
"I would have done so!"
After a year
had passed following the
treaty of Hudaybiyya, the
Muslims traveled to Mecca
and they were able to
complete all the rites of
the umra, doing everything
as the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) did it. In accordance
with the terms of the
treaty, the Muslims left
after three days, when their
umra had been completed. Not
long after this, the Prophet
sent an army of three
thousand Muslims northwards
to the borders of the
Byzantine territories in
what is now Palestine to
chastise the tribes there
for killing the messengers
whom he had sent to call
them to Islam. The tribes
called on the Emperor
Herclius for support, and
when the Muslim army arrived
at Muta, they found
themselves facing an army of
two thousand men. Many of
the Muslims died as shahids
on the day of the battle,
but thanks to the tactics of
Khalid bin Walid, the Greeks
withdrew the next day, and
so the Muslims were able to
return to Medina relatively
unscathed. When the news of
the battle of Muta finally
reached Mecca, the Quraish
mistakenly believed that the
Muslims had been thoroughly
defeated by the Greeks and
decided to renew their
opposition to the Prophet
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him). In doing
so, they deliberately broke
their treaty that they had
made at Hudaybiiya, by
allowing their allies to
attack and kill some of the
allies of the Muslims who
lived near Mecca.
Accordingly
the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) marched on Mecca at the
head of an army of ten
thousand Muslims. Despite
everyone's fears, he
conquered it with hardly a
drop of blood being spilled.
As always, the mercy and
forgiveness that he
displayed towards those who
had relentlessly opposed him
for so many years changed
people's hearts, and many of
the people of Mecca now
embraced Islam as a result.
Having pardoned all of the
Quraish, with the exception
of four men who had all
committed murder for
personal reasons, the
Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him)
smashed all the idols and
destroyed all the paintings
that had been placed inside
the Ka'ba by the
idol-worshippers. The
sanctity of the sanctuary of
Mecca had been restored, and
at long last the Muslims
were free to come and go in
Mecca as they pleased.
In the midst
of the peace and rejoicing,
however, news came that the
tribes of Hawazin and Thaqif
were preparing to attack the
Muslims. The Muslim army
that had conquered Mecca,
swelled to twelve thousand
by some of the men from the
Quraish who had just
embraced Islam, marched to a
place called Hunayn. For the
first time in their
experience, the Muslims
actually outnumbered the
enemy, of whom there were
only about four thousand.
This nearly proved to be the
Muslims' undoing, for many
of them felt secure because
of their large numbers
rather than because of the
reliance on Allah. When the
enemy suddenly attacked at
dawn, showering down arrows
from the hills, the Muslims
were taken by surprise and
many began to flee. A small
group stood firm with the
Prophet, one of whom was Umm
Sulaym bint Milhan, the wife
of Abu Talha. Although she
was pregnant at the time,
she had armed herself with a
dagger to use against the
kafirun.
Fortunately
the strong Muslims rallied
round the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) and although there were
only six hundred of them,
their concerted effort,
fighting valiantly in the
way of Allah, turned the
tide of the battle until
those who had turned away in
the initial panic and
confusion had returned and
the battle was won. After
the battle of Hunayn, the
only continued resistance to
the Muslims was from the
north and north-east, from
the Byzantine and Persian
Empires. Having heard that
the Greeks were preparing a
huge army of thirty thousand
men and marched out in the
heat of the late summer to
do battle with them. After a
long, hard, hot march, the
Muslim army reached Tabuk,
and here they learned that
the Greeks had retreated
back to their own territory.
Accordingly, having made
peace treaties with all the
border tribes, the Muslims
returned to Medina, in time
for many of them to go on
the pilgrimage to Mecca.
Those who had made weak
excuses in order to avoid
going on the expedition to
Tabuk now felt great shame
and regret.
The Prophet
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) himself
did not go on the pilgrimage
this year, for people were
coming to Medina from all
over the Arab lands to
embrace Islam and to pledge
allegiance to him. It was
this year that came to be
known as 'the Year of the
Delegations', during which,
at one point, the Prophet
became so exhausted from
seeing people that he had to
pray sitting down. So
instead, Abu Bakr (may Allah
be pleased with him) led the
pilgrims. It was during this
hajj that the ayat in the
Quran that forbade the idol
worshippers from ever
entering the sanctuary of
Mecca again were revealed;
they were made public during
the hajj by Ali ibn Abi
Talib (may Allah be pleased
with him) who was sent
straight from Medina to
Mecca as soon as they had
been revealed, so that as
many people as possible
would hear them. The
following year, when the
time for the pilgrimage drew
near, the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) announced that he was
going on the hajj, and as a
result everyone wanted to do
it with him. The Muslims who
did not live in or near
Medina either first traveled
to Medina in order to
accompany him on the journey
to Mecca, or else traveled
to Mecca from every part of
Arabia and joined him there.
Amongst the
people on what has become
known as 'the Farewell
Pilgrimage' of the Prophet
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) was
A'isha, for the Prophet
asked all of his wives, may
Allah be pleased with them,
to accompany him, to ensure
that they all fulfilled this
particular obligation that
every Muslim owes to his or
her Lord. It was an
extraordinary pilgrimage.
There never had been, and
there never has been, and
there never will be, another
hajj quite like it, for at
its heart was the Prophet
Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) and around him were his
family and Companions, may
the blessings and peace of
Allah be on them, and during
it the ayat of the Qur'an
was revealed:
This day I
have perfected your deen for
you and have completed My
blessing on you, and have
chosen Islam for you as your
deen. (Quran 5:3)
It was also
during this hajj that the
Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) gave
his famous Farewell Khutba,
whose words still ring in
our ears and echo in our
hearts all these centuries
later. When he had finished
speaking to the thousands
upon thousands of Muslims
who were gathered around him
on the plain of Arafa, he
raised his voice slightly
and asked, "My Lord, have I
delivered the message?" And
thousands upon thousands of
voices from all around him
answered his question: "Yes,
you have." And many of those
who were present passed on
that message to those who
ere not present, and so it
has continued, right up
until today. And one of
those who was present was
A'isha, of whom the Prophet
(peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) once
said, "Learn some of your
deen from this red haired
lady." Meaning A'isha.
This is not
surprising, for she is one
of the four people who have
transmitted more than two
thousand hadiths, the others
being Abu Hurairah, Abdullah
ibn Umar, and Anas ibn
Malik. Many of these are
about some of the most
intimate aspects of personal
behavior and hygiene which
only someone in A'isha's
position could have learned.
It was during the course of
his marriage with A'isha
that the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) married several other
wives, usually to strengthen
ties between important
families and tribes, or to
relieve the hardship of a
woman who had been
unexpectedly divorced or
widowed, or in order to
clearly demonstrate whom it
wapermissible for a Muslim
to marry, but above all
because all of his marriage
had been decreed by Allah,
and because all of his wives
were exceptional women.
POSITION
OF AISHA
Since A'isha
loved the Prophet so much,
she could not help being
jealous if his attention
were directed towards others
more than what seemed enough
to her. She once asked him,
"O Messenger of Allah, tell
me about yourself. If you
were between the two slopes
of a valley, one of which
had been grazed, while the
other had been grazed, on
which slope would you
pasture your flocks?" "On
the one that had not been
grazed," replied the
Prophet. "Even so," she
said, "and I am not like any
of your other wives. Every
one of them had a husband
before you, except myself."
The Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) smiled and said
nothing.
It is clear
that in spite of his wives'
high station with Allah,
(may Allah be pleased with
them) they were still human,
and at times rather jealous
of each other. Thus, for
example, it had been related
by A'isha that the Prophet
usually visited his wives
every afternoon, after the
Asr prayer. On one occasion
he stayed longer than usual
in the room of Zaynab bint
Jahsh, for someone had given
her some honey, of which the
Prophet was very fond. "At
this," said A'isha, "I felt
jealous, and I, Hafsa,
Sawda, and Safiyya agreed
between ourselves that as he
visited each of us, we would
tell him that there was a
funny smell coming from his
mouth from what he had
eaten, for we knew that he
was particularly sensitive
to offensive smells."
Everything went as planned,
and as a result, the Prophet
vowed that he would never
eat honey again, only to be
reprimanded by the
revelation of the following
ayat:
O Prophet,
why do you forbid what Allah
has made lawful for you, in
seeking to please your
wives? And Allah is
Forgiving, Compassionate.
(Quran 66:1)
Allah made
the whole matter known to
the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) and he confronted the
one whose idea it had been
with the truth:
So when he
told her about it, she said,
'Who told you this?' He
said, 'I was told by the
Knowing, the Aware.' (Quran
66:3)
This incident
indicates the extent of the
Prophet's submission to
Allah. The Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allah be
upon him) was the means by
which Allah taught the
Muslims their deen in every
moment and situation. What
might have seemed an
innocent bit of fun to his
wives, (may Allah be pleased
with them), was not
permitted by Allah to result
in any alteration to the
hudud of Allah, to what is
permitted and what is
forbidden by Allah, for if
the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) had never eaten honey
again, then many of his
Companions and followers
might have done likewise.
On another
occasion, when one of the
Prophet's other wives, Umm
Salama (may Allah be pleased
with her) complained on
their behalf about the fact
that more presents were
being given to the Prophet
on the day that he was with
A'isha than on the days when
he was with his other wives,
he replied, "O Umm Salama,
do not trouble me by harming
A'isha, for by Allah, the
Divine inspiration never
came to me while I was under
the blanket of any woman
amongst you except her." "I
turn to Allah from troubling
you, O Messenger of Allah,"
she said.
However the
Prophet's other wives were
still not content, and asked
Fatima to speak to the
Prophet on their behalf.
When she raised the subject,
he said, (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon
him) "O my daughter, do you
not love those I love?"
"Yes." She said. "Then love
her." He replied.
On another
occasion, A'isha was on a
journey with the Prophet and
some of his Companions. She
had borrowed a necklace from
her sister Asma and during
the journey she discovered
that she had mislaid it. The
journey wa delayed while
some of the Companions
looked for it, and after a
while the time for the
prayer came. There was no
water with which to do wudu,
so they became very agitated
about that. They went to Abu
Bakr and said, "Do you see
what A'isha has done! She
has caused the Messenger of
Allah (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) to
stop at a place where there
is no water!" Meanwhile, the
Prophet (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) had
fallen asleep with his head
resting against A'isha's
leg. Abu Bakr went up to
A'isha and started to poke
her and upbraid her for
holding up the people when
they did not have any water.
She did not move because she
did not want to disturb the
Prophet's sleep. The Prophet
soon woke up and the ayats
about tayammum were
revealed, making it clear to
everyone what should be done
when a Muslim on a journey
needs to do wudu, but has no
water.
Usayd ibn
Hudayr said to Abu Bakr,
"This is not the first
blessing to have come from
your family." And to A'isha,
"May Allah reward you with
good! By Allah, whenever |